It is said that to read a book takes one hour. To understand a book takes one week, But, to actually live the book can take several lifetimes.
I frequently, read about the desirability of avoiding criticising others.
To deliberately criticise
May cause an indelible stain
On the critic.
– Sri Chinmoy
The fault is in the blamer
Spirit sees nothing to criticize
“Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain and most fools do.”
– Benjamin Franklin
“Criticism is an indirect form of self-boasting”
– Emmet Fox
This is something in this that really resonates. And yet, it can be difficult to put into practise. As Sri Chinmoy says:
To resist the urge
To criticise others
Is, indeed, a most difficult task.
– Sri Chinmoy
Why it is good to avoid criticising others.
- When we criticise others, we often have the same fault in our own nature.
- Criticising others very rarely inspires them to change.
- Gossiping about others brings out the worst in ourself. It gives us a negative frame of mind
- Criticising others, gives us a sense of pride and superiority.
- We really value people who aren’t negative, but willing to look over our mistakes and see the good.
Theory is Fine, but, Is it Practical?
Theoretically, it is great, but, what about living the ideal?
I am going to try very hard to avoid criticising other people for a week. Not only will I not criticise people outwardly, but, I won’t allow myself to criticise people inwardly.
I am intrigued to know:
- Is it possible to remain free of criticism both outwardly and inwardly
- What happens when we don’t criticise others – Will we be happier?
- What will others think of us, if we refuse to criticise / gossip about others?
- Can it be done in all situations like work and home environment.
I will let you know how I get on after a week or two. You are welcome to try too.
BTW: Common Sense is always a good thing. For example, If my students don’t do their homework, it won’t change my attitude of giving them a hard time.
photo by Pranlobha, Sri Chinmoy Centre Galleries