Why Life Feels Difficult And What To Do About It.

The Warning

Does life often get you down? Life can be tough, but,  there are also a few things we can do to easily brush away some of the common difficulties.

Common Problems and how to deal with it

Lack of Money

It is easy to feel that if we could just get a few thousand more dollars – all our problems would be solved. However, you may find even if you won a thousand dollars, you would still want more. Life will always create money worries – the important thing is how to deal with them. Try to keep money in its proper place, don’t let it dominate your life. Take practical steps to improve your financial situation, but try also to be content with your current situation; it is a mistake to always feel that a lack of money is our most significant problem.

Lack of Motivation

Often we know what we should do, but, we feel no inclination to start. A lack of motivation means that we never try new things and life can easily become stale. A lack of motivation is related to a feeling of boredom and self doubt. There are many practical ways to overcome a lack of motivation; the most important thing is just to start new projects. Often when we make the initial first step, we realise it is not as difficult as we feared. It can also be important to set goals, if we make certain targets it becomes harder to find excuses and avoid doing it.

Problems keep repeating themselves

Quite often, when we solve or avoid a problem, it repeats itself through another person or another experience. This can be dispiriting because it seems we will never be able to gain peace of mind. The solution is not to keep trying to avoid the problem, when we have a defect in our character the problem will keep appearing. To resolve this kind of problem we need to take a fresh perspective and try to understand the underlying cause of the problem. This may require some honest self criticism. Look at your motives and thoughts and see whether you can approach issues from a different perspective.

Criticism from Others

Sometimes we try our best, but others never seem satisfied. This criticism can come from our boss, families or friends. If we try to make everyone happy we will never succeed; whatever we do, someone will always discover some reason to find fault. Instead we need to look carefully at how we deal with criticism. Some criticism is false, so we should ignore it and remain detached. If criticism is valid, we should seek to learn from it, without feeling guilty or a sense of injured pride.

How to overcome destructive criticism? Just love a little more. That’s all.

– Sri Chinmoy

Life is heading Nowhere

Do you ever get the feeling that life is heading nowhere? Do you think about where you will be in 10 years time and groan at the prospect of being stuck in the same dead end job, with the same unsolved problems? If the future depresses you, don’t resign to your fate. Do something to create a better future; it is important to have the hope of a different and more fulfilling future. Unless we are able to have a positive view of our future self development, there is little hope of actually creating it.

Minor Personality conflicts

Minor personality conflicts are one of the most enduring causes of human suffering. It seems that no matter where we turn, there are always other people ready to cause problems. No matter how hard we try, we can’t seem to avoid getting irritated by the behaviour of other people. To make things worse these small problems often go round endlessly in our mind, magnifying the initial problem. The solution is not to expect a certain behaviour from other people; if we give up on perfecting other’s behaviour life becomes more peaceful. The other thing we need to try is to gain control of our thoughts. We need to let go of negative thoughts so that we don’t allow minor problems to escalate in importance.

Poor Health.

Do you get out of breath walking up the stairs? Do you feel a sense of guilt about piling on extra pounds? If we neglect the body and fail to exercise we become lethargic and more prone to a depressed state of mind. The link between a healthy body and positive frame of mind can never be underestimated; it is only when we make an effort to keep fit that we realise the difference it can make, and not just to our physical health but our state of mind. To start an exercise regime does need self discipline and self motivation; but, unless you can look after your own health, no amount of pills will be able to solve your problems.

Photo by: Pavitrata Taylor, Sri Chinmoy Centre galleries

10 thoughts on “Why Life Feels Difficult And What To Do About It.”

  1. Another great post. I really like what you write and it always seem so obvious. How comes we don’t realize these things ourselves? 😉

    But that’s why it’s good to have people like you reminding us of these things! Now we just need to implement them … 🙂

    Have a nice day. Namaste.

  2. Hi Jerome,

    Thanks for kind words. As you say, it’s sometimes easier to write these things than actually implement them 🙂

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  4. “Everything happens for a reason.”We can’t always see everything coming our way. Take life for what it is. It is what we make it.As we partake in this journey called life we must realize that we are in control of our own destiny. Thank you for keeping us informed and to realize how important our life is. Noone can live it for us, we should be in charge of our lives because we live it once and once is enough if you work it right. Thank you once again.

  5. Im so tired of people telling me how lucky i am…maybe in the other part of me,i’m lucky…i have God who loves me unconditionally. I’m just upset and depressed this past few days…i know i have to understand others to be understood.I’ve learned that it’s better to remain silent that fight back on others who just focus on my negative part.Anyway..i didn’t make decision just to please others..i dont care if they don’t like…well i’m just hurt..people will really love us for so many reason but will hate us right away just for one mistakes.I wonder if what’s the difference between concern and being strict to someone,i guess theres a big difference between them…but i can’t blame others,they easily react without even trying to know the real meaning why other people did something..well as what i have mentioned PEOPLE WILL LOVE US FOR SO MANY REASON BUT WILL JUST HATE US RIGHT AWAY EVEN WITH JUST SINGLE MISTAKE.I wonder if what’s in their mind why…oh no,i can’t explain it.Well,maybe,i guess…they were really like that.Oh…i’m just hurt..i’m just hurt…well thanks for taking some time to read my message…i’ll be okay later.I know i don’t have to change my principle just to please them…i dont have plans to please people…Lord..help me overcome this…i’m hurt!…i just want to voice out..before my tears will fall..but it doesn’t mean that i will give up…i will never give up..i know someone up there loves me unconditionally…thanks for the time!

  6. Great article! It’s important that we face these challenges head on to overcome them! Thanks! I’m looking forward to reading more of your work.

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