10 Tips To Get out of a Rut

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If you find yourself stuck in a rut, life can become monotonous, dreary and uninspiring. It is easy to feel life is going nowhere, especially if we have problems at work or with family. To bring newness into our lives we need to first realise that we are actually stuck in a rut. After that we can make a conscious decision to rejuvenate our lives.

Here are some Practical Tips to Get out of a Rut.

1. Set Challenges

Personal challenges are a very powerful way of motivating yourself to do something new. If there is no target it is easy to make a half-hearted effort and give up. However, when we have something very clear to aim for, it is much more likely we will actually make something happen.

2. Focus on the Present Moment

Do you spend alot of time regretting the past? Everyone makes decisions they later regret, but, if you become consumed with regret you will not be able to move forward and forget the experience. Don’t be preoccupied with the past and future, try to enjoy the present moment.

3. Do Without Some Everyday things

It is easy to get into a routine where we spend several hours doing the same uninspiring activities. If you are addicted to watching TV, surfing the net or playing computer games, make a decision to do without them for a day or week; this will force you to do something completely different. This does not mean you have to give up watching TV completely. It is just that if we become totally absorbed in one activity, it leaves no opportunity for discovering newness in our life.

4. Learn a new Skill

There are many things that we could use to improve our life. Learning a new skill gives us the opportunity to find a new avenue for creativity and inspiration. In the process of learning we can get a feeling of self improvement. This is the best antidote to being stuck in a rut.

5. Do Something for Other People

When we live only for our own pleasure, there feels something lacking. When we do something selflessly for other people, we bring out the best in ourselves. Offering useful service to other people is highly rewarding.

6. Look at things from a different perspective

When life becomes boring, it is often a reflection of our inner attitude. If we have a tendency to be negative, then it is more likely that we become bored with life. For example, try to look at relationships from a different perspective; stop complaining about other people’s behaviour, if you wait for other people to behave as you want them to, you will always be frustrated. Instead practise tolerance and patience.

7. Don’t listen Endlessly to Your Thoughts

It is your own thoughts that make you feel you are stuck in a rut, and that life is boring and futile. But, why do have to listen to these thoughts? Learn to manage your thoughts and let go of these negative opinions. If you can clear your mind, this will make a big difference to your outlook on life.

8. Spend Time With Enthusiastic People

If you feel stuck in a rut, don’t waste time feeling sorry for yourself. If you spend some time with enthusiastic / positive people, some of this energy will rub off on yourself. Even if you don’t particularly feel like doing it, meeting other people will take you out of yourself and help to reenergise yourself.

9. Don’t Keep Complaining

You could spend 24 hours a day complaining about various things; but, would that give you any satisfaction? When we complain we actually give our energy and focus to the negative. Complaining just makes life seem more dreary and unfair.

10. Humour

Even in the most banal experiences there is the opportunity for humour. Don’t take life too seriously, always try to see the funny side. Without humour the world would have ended many years ago.

Photo By: Unmesh Swanson, Sri Chinmoy Centre galleries

The photo is of the classic view of MACCHU PICCHU PERU

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17 Responses to 10 Tips To Get out of a Rut

  1. maisi May 8, 2008 at 4:14 am #

    very useful tips to read, thanks, m

  2. Jenny Stradling January 22, 2009 at 1:17 pm #

    I like it…. I also suggest signing up for something you wouldn`t normally do. I would have never signed up for a yoga class, but when attempting to sign up for a different class, it was too late when I realized I had registered and paid for yoga… so, I forced myself to go and I ended up loving it! Go try something new, you never know, you may find a love or passion for something to get you out of that rut!

  3. vijaya April 21, 2009 at 10:46 am #

    what to do when your husband dont let you go out.you are like a prisoner.my only pastime is book.

  4. Paige June 29, 2009 at 8:46 am #

    Great ideas. Solid. I LOVE the soul bird drawings!!

  5. Vickie Champion July 25, 2009 at 6:50 am #

    I find that if I take one thing at a time and make baby steps I can get myself out of a rut easily.

  6. jason August 2, 2009 at 1:11 am #

    how to get someone to realize what kind of person they really are.

  7. thiruppathi January 3, 2010 at 6:39 am #

    hi –really useful post — before reading your blog, i used to complain about others –now i completely changed by reading your various post — really good post—-

  8. Joe October 3, 2010 at 3:47 am #

    Thank you very much. I feel motivated already. :)

  9. Marina June 25, 2011 at 11:43 pm #

    So useful. Solid advice. Hard to acknowledge the truth about yourself sometimes.

  10. Dan Barrett October 29, 2011 at 9:30 am #

    Hello all,

    If you are feeling stuck in a rut, and would like to change your life, I would love to speak with you.

    I myself was once caught in a horrible rut – a truly awful, powerless experience that took me years to break out of. I now help teach people how to break out of ruts and truly change their lives.

    I’m thinking of writing a book, and would love to interview anyone who feels they are stuck in a rut. I’ll give my best advice (for free!) just to learn more about this problem.

    If you’re interested,send me an email at danielbarrett@gmail.com so we can get in touch. Thanks!

  11. Margaret Louis March 6, 2012 at 2:18 am #

    This is one of the best advice posts I’ve read for a life lift. Thank you. All these suggestions work for real. Two additional things that really help me is practising gratitude, particularly for my health and wellbeing as without it, I really would be stuck in a rut and actively questioning my motives for my behaviour or choices. Once you start doing this, just asking yourself, Why am I doing this? What is the point or purpose? you’ll find you’ll change overnight.

  12. Margaret Louis March 6, 2012 at 2:23 am #

    This is one of the best advice posts I’ve read for a life lift. Thank you. A couple of things that have helped me is practising gratitude, particularly for my health and wellbeing because without it I really would be stuck in a rut. Also questioning motive for behaviour or choices, ie asking myself, “Why am I doing this?” “What is the point or purpose?” creates immediate change for me.

  13. neil m April 10, 2012 at 5:08 am #

    I will try to absorb this information, is what I already know, but its just seeing it written in black and white makes all the difference,, than you ,, its a case of if I don’t heed this then I will just press the self destruct button….

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