Overcoming a Phobia

It’s sometimes easy to write about what we should do – e.g. overcome worries with detachment and positive visualisations e.t.c. But,  when things actually happen to you, it’s much more difficult to put the theory into practise! I don’t have many phobias, or irrational fears, but recently I came up against my own worst phobia.

I was going on holiday to New York (as much a spiritual retreat as holiday). I came off my bike on the day of the flight – a nasty accident. But, I made it to NY fine. Three days later the leg started to get much worse. That was strange, I couldn’t work out what was going on. I had to spend the next 3 days in a chair or on my back. The dynamism of New York came to an abrupt halt for me!

In a way, I actually quite enjoyed it. I could look through some poetry websites I hadn’t been able to touch for months. I was grateful to have other things to be able to do.

Being confined to a chair was not as bad as I might have feared. I actually quite liked the extra time – a rare luxury. Of course, I would have preferred to have a good leg, but at least I felt grateful for finding alternative things to do.

I was able to eventually hop around and hobble on the plane back home.  But, back in England, the detachment I felt about the accident started to wear thin; two weeks off my beloved bike is one thing (I’m quite a serious bike racer), but any longer and the cycling season is in danger of slipping away. I went to visit a sports physio who suggested I go immediately to A&E with suspected blood clot. The doctors there weren’t so sure, and said come back later for scan. After the weekend, I did finally make it for a scan, which showed a blood clot, although in the lower leg it tends not to be so serious.

The doctor said in rare cases blood clots can be fatal. Now, death doesn’t really worry me at all.  But, when the doctor said, we’ll need to take a blood test – my life energy drained away.  Just the thought of a blood test left me a quivering wreck.

I don’t know why I have such a phobia of blood, I’ve had no bad experience in this life. In fact I’ve been remarkably fortunate in having no more than the occasional scrape from cycling accidents. If you believe in previous incarnations, you might speculate such phobias come from traumatic deep-buried previous life experiences, which involved extensive blood loss.

But, whether a past life experience or not, I had a fear of blood tests, which I knew to be irrational. I tried to remember the kind of things I write about, but somehow found it quite difficult to apply!

The problem was that the treatment for blood clots was daily blood tests and injections. – I knew it was going to be one of those things you just can’t avoid. Life has a habit of repeatedly throwing up things you try to escape from. If not now, it would be sometimes in the future. So, it was something to try and deal with.


The second blood test was not as bad, it doesn’t really hurt. The feeling of nausea was not as strong. After that I was much more detached about the blood tests. It became a routine, and I was able to realise no harm comes form it. The pain is minimal and then that’s it – done. By the seventh day, I forced myself to actually look. It took me seven days to even be able to look, but because it was better than at first, I wanted to keep making progress. The daily routine of having a blood tests, changed some underlying subconscious reaction. The terrible fear evaporated. The conscious mind was able to convince the subconscious there is really nothing to worry about.

During the blood tests, I did try a little mantra, I also tried visualising a positive outcome. It helped the nurses were sympathetic. (they told me they had one patient who ran away at last minute. He had to be brought back in by his wife! So I could have been worse) But, the main thing is to simple experience it, and try and stop the instinctive negative reaction.

I wouldn’t say I enjoy blood tests. But, I can look now and I guess I’ve learnt something from the experience. It may sound a silly thing, but

7 Steps to Overcome a Phobia


  1. Don’t feel bad about the fact you have a phobia. If you feel guilty or useless, this just makes it worse. If you are kind to yourself, it will be much easier.
  2. Do feel with certainty that you will be able to overcome it – even if you can’t see immediately  how.
  3. Try to acclimatise yourself to the thing you have a phobia about. Try and relate it to a positive image. If you have a phobia of planes, visualise good experiences related to planes. If you have a phobia of spiders, consider the image like at the top.
  4. Make steady progress. Some phobias can’t be got rid of over night. You need patience and take a steady pace. Part of me feels useless for taking 7 days to look at the needle. But, as long as you are going in right direction that helps.
  5. If possible try to experience your phobia from a safe distance. If you have a real phobia of spiders, spend more time looking at them from a distance, and as you see them tell yourself, they are not doing you any harm.
  6. Try to stop that instinctive negative reaction as soon as it appears. If this is difficult, just try to feel that this feeling of dread and phobia is separate too you. It’s like feeling a thought is external to you. (see: how to control thoughts)
  7. When you actually experience your phobia, it’s much easier. Several blood tests have made it much easier for me to deal with blood. Part of the phobia was I’d been able to avoid blood all my life.
  8. Do use Reason. If we can be honest about risks, we will see the mind has a capacity to exaggerate our fears and worries.

Practical fears
Are very rare experiences.
Theoretical fears
Are daily occurrences.

Sri Chinmoy






Photo top: Craigsd Flickr, creative commons

BTW: The leg is much better now.

6 thoughts on “Overcoming a Phobia”

  1. I enjoyed this post like anything! I daresay it will be of real benefit to people out there who are struggling with some phobia or another.

  2. I know its all looks so good, but’s it actually not so easy.
    The feeling of fear is itself too great.

  3. Fears and phobias can be awful and you certainly experienced one of the scariest ones. I like your steps that you outlined to overcome these. I know that they will benefit many.

    You might not be aware of this, but there are also other ways to eliminate fears, and some of them are quite easy and quick.

    Because a fear is simply a thought, you are correct in that we have the ability to be aware of our thoughts and change them.

    Many people unfortunately don’t believe that they can, so they find someone like me to help them.

    I use hypnosis and teach my clients hypnosis.
    I also use EFT (The Emotional Freedom Technique) and teach all of my clients this tool also.

    If you want to learn for yourself – contact me. I’m happy to help you over SKYPE or google+. It’s what I do everyday 🙂

  4. Great read! The only real way to overcome a fear is to face it. Usually you will find that your fear isn’t as bad as you initially thought. I have overcome many fears and phobias simply by forcing myself to face them. Most people can’t just simply force themselves to experience something that frightens them. So it’s nice that you have a list of steps that can help them out.

  5. This article provides great information for overcoming phobia! thanks for the post!
    @Shaun- agree with you that the only way to overcome fear is to face it. No matter how much support friends and family members provide, it would be all futile if we choose to run away and leave that scar inside us.

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