10 Tips to Avoid Becoming Depressed

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Is it possible to avoid depression? What is the secret of cultivating happiness and avoiding periods of unhappiness? To a large extent, we determine our own frame of mind; we shouldn’t feel that we are a helpless victim to depression. Depression is something that we can avoid by cultivating the opposite – happiness.

Here are some tips for avoiding depression

1. Offer goodwill to Others.

If we seek to make others miserable how can we expect to be happy ourselves? If we offer goodwill to other people this creates a powerful positive energy. Focusing on other people’s good qualities can definitely help improve our own state of mind. There is a principle that what we give out, we get back. Therefore, by offering positive energy to, at some time, we will also be the recipient.

2. Learn to Detach from Thoughts

Thoughts play a very significant role in determining our state of mind. If we pursue negative thoughts then we give them greater power and influence over our state of being. However, it is possible to decide which thoughts to allow and which to reject. We have to learn to be vigilant and prevent negative thoughts from taking hold. As soon as we become aware of negative thoughts we should let go of them. We can imagine that we are throwing them out of our mind into a cosmic dustbin.

3. Keep Busy.

If we struggle to detach from negative thoughts we should just throw ourselves into other activities. When we get involved in other activities that we enjoy it takes us out of ourselves. Activity forces us to do something constructive, and does not allow us to dwell on our depressed state of mind.

4. Avoid Feelings of guilt.

If we have made a mistake, harbouring feelings of guilt will not help alleviate the situation. In particular, we are seeking to avoid feelings of guilty for minor events of no significance. Often we have done nothing wrong, but, others seek to make us feel guilty for their bad fortune. Instead of feeling guilty we should seek to concentrate on doing the right thing.

5. Live a Balanced Life.

In life we need to make room for different aspects. If we focus all our time and energy on work then we will have no time for relaxation and cultivating other aspects of our life. If we pursue an unbalanced life unhappiness is more likely to occur.

6. Don’t Base your Happiness solely on other people.

If we expect to gain happiness from another person, at some time, we are bound to be disappointed. If bad relationships end, we should see it as an opportunity to move on. It is no use dwelling on what might have been. It is also a mistake to feel that we can change somebody to match our preferences. If we seek to change a person fundamentally we will just feel frustrated when we fail.

7. Share Problems

Good friendships can offer tremendous help. Especially, if we can have 1 or 2 friends who are able and willing to listen to our problems. Our friends will not be able to solve our problems. However, simply having someone to talk to and share difficulties is a tremendous help in being able to work through our own problems.

8. Cultivate Happiness.

To avoid depression we have to focus on the alternative which is happiness. The problem is that when we are depressed, the idea of happiness seems a million miles away. But, sometimes if we can force a smile or try to be insincerely happy, we can trick the mind and force happiness to descend; and after a while we start to achieve real happiness.

Will follow you
If your heart remains
Undisturbed by trifles.

Sri Chinmoy

9. Have Low Expectations.

Depression often occurs because our desires remain unfulfilled. The more desires we have, the more likely we are to be disappointed. After disappointment comes a sense of frustration and depression. If we minimise our desires then we will not be prone to disappointment. This does not mean we cannot strive for excellence and achieve things. We definitely should strive to achieve various accomplishments. However, we should try to have an attitude of detachment to the outcome. Nor should we expect people to behave in a certain way.

10. Don’t Dwell On the Negative.

This is the key to avoiding depression. If we focus always on negative things this will eventually filter through into our state of mind. Negativity can be, miserable people, depressing situations and our own negative thoughts. If we want to cultivate happiness, we should seek to avoid depressing situations and depressing people.

Photo By Kedar Misani, Sri Chinmoy Centre Galleries

70 thoughts on “10 Tips to Avoid Becoming Depressed”

  1. i have 2 childrens and we have join family with mother-in-law and father-in-law and i am working in pvt. firm. My mother-in-law behaviour is not good with me. She always make difference in me and my husband. Whatever mistakes my husband does she never scold him but if i does any small mistake she always highlight and my husband is also same, whatever she does he always support her. He will not support me and not help me in any household work. My both the childrens are very small one is 8yr and one is 10 months. So i need his help but he is not try to understand me. So may time I loose my temper. So What should I do? please advice me.

  2. I totally agree with all the tips and guidlines which has mentioned above, its very helpful.
    Many thanks, Indeed!!!

  3. Im only 16 years old…..and i deal with depression. My life is hard and my parents bring me down even more. Ive lost the most important people to me and i feel as if im breaking. Im breaking a thousands of pieces. Theres no one here to help me and i’m afraid. Im afraid of what my depression might lead to. I need help please. If you can please message me ill be very greatful. Thanks for your tips. 🙂

  4. Thanks a copious of time for your tips to avoid becoming depressed.It helps me a lot .It did help me about my peer-conselling class, which was a project about depression that worth 500points.Finally,I got 510 for the project .It’s very helpful!!!!!!!!!! thanks a lot……

  5. I was upset, depressed and down and I had to reduce the depression that has been going on for a year – always been trying to but this day was sooo different I had the same emotional depression, I cried and for over a year I had no one to share exactly how I feel. I’m someone that needs to be overhauled i am too emotional and I care more about others than myself… Thank you for tips as good as this. All I ever wanted was to learn the art of avoiding depression – DO NOT ever entertain it!

  6. thanks for this inspiring thoughts of positivity…I had been searching articles and uplifting message and sayings just to enlighten my understanding especially when I am having a depression,frustration, disappointments in life,failures,mistakes,and that will lead me to feel down and upset,pride,alone,low self esteem,feel helpless and hopeless….thank u so much….

  7. even i feel very depressed now a days its not with the other persons it is with my family….what ever i want to do they will oppose me….recently my dream i just wanted to go abroad and i wanted to study but they did not supported me to go…..not only in this issue what ever i want to do they are the one to oppose me first……am trying not to think all the things but it is really very hurting some times i feel like commiting suiside……i cant able to stop my feeling longer…….

  8. Im am feeling depressed but ive slummped so far into it that I dont feel like these tips will help…thanks though

  9. thank you very much to you who post this facts. It is very helpful for me as i’ve red about it. I hope and I will pray that someone who’s in depression right now will have a time to search for this post. and help to rediscover himself. thanks a lot

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