This is in response to a readers question about how to deal with lack of confidence.
List Some Positive Qualities
Here, you have to be honest with yourself. Yes, you will have some weaknesses, but, also you have some strengths and good qualities. If you lack self confidence maybe you are sensitive person, who is keenly aware of other people’s feelings. Turn this sensitivity into a strength; feel that your empathy with other people makes you a better person. Try to list several good qualities and / or several positive contributions that you have made and avoid feelings of false modesty.
Spend Time With Positive People.
Unfortunately, sometimes when we lack self confidence we can gravitate towards people who instinctively like to put others down. (This behaviour is rooted in their own insecurities – they knock other people to make themselves feel better). However, spending time with negative people is inevitably very bad for our self confidence. It is a real shame when this happens repeatedly for some people. Look closely at the people you spend your time with, if they are always criticising you (either directly or indirectly) try spend more time with people who don’t.
Be Yourself – Don’t Imitate
You can only gain self-confidence when you are trying to be yourself. In some social situations we feel awkward so the temptation is to do what you think other people expect; we try to be somebody we are not. But, when we are trying to be someone that we are not, inevitably we lack self-confidence because the element of falseness in being something we are not.
Don’t think of failure
If we constantly worry about things going wrong then a lack of self confidence is almost inevitable. Don’t feel you are a victim to your thoughts, learn to control them. There is an article here about – how to control your thoughts.
Give Yourself a chance to succeed.
If you lack self confidence, it is a bigger mistake to always hold yourself back. Try inspiring yourself to give some activities a chance. If you never attempt anything and avoid engaging in social activities, it is likely that your self-confidence will never get chance to be rebuilt.
Be Kind To Yourself.
Life is not about being hard on yourself, if you can’t be kind to yourself – who is going to be? Being kind to yourself involves several different aspects. I have written about this before. One particular example is – Dress smart – give yourself confidence by wearing clothes you are comfortable with. Wearing the right clothes for the situation makes a big difference to your self-confidence. see: Be Kind to Yourself
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wow… this totally speaks directly to me. i have the lowest self esteem of anyone i’ve ever met in my entire life and everything you said is spot-on. i definitely intend to follow these tips. thank you.
Love, Love , Love this!! It’s soO inspirational, good food for thought. =) All of the things you said are sOo true…Can’t argue with that…I’m definitely bookmarking this for myself and I’m going to forwarding it to my friends to uplift them…
@Whoever reading this
Everyone have their days…But we’re only human and we must overcome, keep going, stay strong,positive, and surround ourselves with positive people…Lack of self-confidence can set you back a whole lot, miss out ,and cause you not live your life the way you should and want to. Lack of self-security means no motivation. It’s all in the mind, it’s like self-imprisonment, We have to break free. People can tell when a person has no confidence and that’s bad, makes it seem as though your weak and some people like to take advantage of that. So just remember that. When you push yourself and not let your insecurities devour you/care about what other people think, you can overcome obstacles. That is, the start of building self security. Praying definitely helps =)
GOD BLESS =)
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Thnx for the great advice
Great article and I liked what you wrote about failure. Worries are even unhealthy for our body and can even create medical problems as well. So that’s another reason to get those worries out of your mind.
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