{"id":196,"date":"2008-05-12T09:40:29","date_gmt":"2008-05-12T16:40:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.srichinmoybio.co.uk\/blog\/?p=196"},"modified":"2011-12-13T17:23:42","modified_gmt":"2011-12-14T00:23:42","slug":"avoiding-misunderstanding","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.srichinmoybio.co.uk\/blog\/life\/avoiding-misunderstanding\/","title":{"rendered":"Avoiding Misunderstanding"},"content":{"rendered":"

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It seems in life, misunderstanding is easy to occur. Misunderstandings can create unnecessary conflict and unhappiness; often this results from a suspicious mind and unfairly assigning motives.<\/p>\n

These are suggestions for preventing and resolving misunderstanding.<\/p>\n

1. Don’t Suspect<\/strong><\/p>\n

Misunderstandings often arise because we suspect the worst. We may feel that someone has a negative attitude towards us, when actually they don’t. The mind can be tricky, we can easily build up a negative image of someone, yet, it is an impression which is false or at least only partially true. Often this stems from a lack of self confidence. Because we doubt ourselves we assume that people are liable to be thinking badly about us. Another example is when we take lack of praise as a sign people think negatively of us. Just because someone doesn’t offer praise outwardly, doesn’t mean that they don’t like us.<\/p>\n

2. Talk honestly<\/strong><\/p>\n

Most misunderstandings can be resolved by talking with other people. Meeting a person and talking of issues, often shows that our mind’s imaginings were quite false. Be wary of communicating via email; it is a very impersonal form of communication. There is no body language and it is much easier to create misunderstandings. Sometimes we can say something, but, it is our facial expression and eyes that offer the real meaning of what we are trying to convey.<\/p>\n

3. Use the heart<\/strong><\/p>\n

The mind will always find conflict, problems and doubts. We need to use the heart and concentrate on things which unite. Here the heart is the aspect which does not judge or criticise but seeks oneness. Outwardly a person may create negative connotations; if this is the case use the heart to silently concentrate on the inner qualities of the other person.<\/p>\n

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4. Don’t assign Motives – you are probably wrong.<\/strong><\/p>\n

A common source of misunderstanding is assigning motives to other people. For example, someone may take a decision and then we see it as a personal attack or personal criticism. Yet, we are often 100% incorrect in assigning this motive and assuming their decision was taken to slight us. It can be very damaging to assume others are out to get us. Often it is base on a ‘poor me’ syndrome – assuming the world is against us. If we cherish this negative mindset, we will only succeed in making ourselves miserable. It is also unfair to other people. When others suspect our motives, we just feel disappointed that we have to try and convince others our motives had nothing to do with their fears and suspicions.<\/p>\n