How To Become A Better Person

How To Become A Better Person (in under 300 words)

Think of other people.  Consider how you can make others happy and encourage them to do the right thing. Spend time to appreciate their good qualities  and boost their self-esteem.

Don’t act for selfish motives. Don’t seek to gain at the expense of others.  Don’t speak ill of friends for the motive of impressing other people.

Don’t waste time in seeking praise. Learn to let go of your ego. Humility does not mean putting yourself down. It means being content with what you are, without external praise / blame.

Never be jealous of others’ success or happiness. Learn to be happy through the well being of others. If others do good things, feel it is partly your achievement.

Don’t be attached to a negative frame of mind. As frequently as necessary, let go of negative thoughts. Don’t brood and be despondent. Be wary often the ego is involved in moods of despair and unhappiness. Cultivate cheerfulness.

Smile. If nothing else try to smile when meeting others.

Be enthusiastic in what you do.  Whatever you find yourself doing, try to be enthusiastic and positive. Even the smallest act done with love and enthusiasm can make a difference.

Don’t force your opinions on other people. Also, listen patiently to others, but at the same time don’t be swayed by what other people think you should do. Test their advice against your inner wisdom.

Inner Peace Take time to find the inner peace and inner joy that is part of your real nature, but often hidden under the layers of our mental imaginings.

Listen to the promptings of the heart. Be sceptical of the cold judgements of the mind.

Better to make mistakes than to sit idle.

Don’t complain, make a difference.

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7 thoughts on “How To Become A Better Person”

  1. Jiddu Krishnamurti used to say, “You are the world, and the world is you”. He didn’t explain this particularly well but he was correct in what he said, both materially and psychologically. I won’t take up space here in providing my own explanation (perhaps another time!); however, it is true to say that everything is part of everything else and there are no truly separate things. It follows that the good you do has to affect the world (the converse is also true). It also follows that the good you do to others you also do to yourself, because you are not truly separate. Let me share a story: years ago I was in a hospital car park and had no change for the ticket machine. I asked a lady who was passing whether she could change a £5 note and she just handed me the £2 i needed for the fee. I thinked her profusely and she said, “It’s OK; it’ll come back to me one day”. I’m sure she didn’t just mean, “The £2 will come back” but “The goodwill will flow my way”. I will never forget this lovely but simple gesture. Her goodwill flows on here; who knows where it will reach?

  2. Please accept this with my typing errors corrected! -Jiddu Krishnamurti used to say, “You are the world, and the world is you”. He didn’t explain this particularly well but he was correct in what he said, both materially and psychologically. I won’t take up space here in providing my own explanation (perhaps another time!); however, it is true to say that everything is part of everything else and there are no truly separate things. It follows that the good you do has to affect the world (the converse is also true). It also follows that the good you do to others you also do to yourself, because you are not truly separate. Let me share a story: years ago I was in a hospital car park and had no change for the ticket machine. I asked a lady who was passing whether she could change a £5 note and she just handed me the £2 I needed for the fee. I thanked her profusely and she said, “It’s OK; it’ll come back to me one day”. I’m sure she didn’t just mean, “The £2 will come back” but “The goodwill will flow my way”. I will never forget this lovely but simple gesture. Her goodwill flows on here; who knows where it will reach?

  3. Good list for a short article on such a broad topic. I’m surprised how many people include so many elements of what NOT to do though instead of what to do. If you know 10 things not to do, it still doesn’t mean you are doing better things instead of those, just different. So to me, to be a better person you need to pick all the things you WILL actually do, instead of not doing.

  4. hi in my opinion a bout be better in under 300 words it’s simple way and the simple is the synonym of the easy each one can do that in day maybe in just moment if he want then i write to say thank you and i hope to be better

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