Could You do This?

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Sometimes it is good to look at life from a different perspective and offer ourselves challenges. Challenges don’t have to be physical challenges of running a marathon or climbing a mountain. These questions test our inner attitude to life; it tests how much we hang onto our ego and how much we can be liberated from the confines of the mind. They are not necessarily easy to do, but, it is an interesting experience and offers a different perspective on life.

Could you get Joy from Your Enemies Achievement?

Think of a person that you dislike or someone who just irritates you. Suppose that they did something really great for the world, how would you feel? Would you be happy and proud they had at last done something good?  Or would you be unable to offer appreciation, feeling a mixture of jealousy and pride that you are still better than them. If we can appreciate people who have irritated us, it means we have a magnanimous heart. It means we can detach from insignificant problems and worries. Too often we allow certain things to permanently cloud our judgement and opinion of others.

Feel Grateful for Criticism

We like praise, we dislike criticism. This is an instinctive view of life. However, it is often very difficult to receive criticism in the right way. The problem is that when criticised we feel personally offended, even though the criticism is for maybe a small action. Maybe the criticism is unjustified, but, also maybe it spot on. Even if criticism is offered with unkind words, it can still contain very good advice which can help us improve. If we just took criticism as an opportunity to learn and grow, we could look upon criticism as beneficial as praise. In fact criticism maybe more useful than praise; we learn little from praise, but it does boost the ego.

Work Entirely without Recognition

Could we work really hard without any desire or need for recognition and appreciation? Quite often we might serve others, but, there is some condition attached to our service. In particular, we expect to have some kind of recognition and reward. Often we may do something with genuinely selfless motives; we act from the heart because we feel it is the right thing to do. However, at a later stage the mind comes to the fore demanding recognition or feeling slighted because we haven’t been praised to the skies. It is as if we have a split personality. Part of us is happy to be unnoticed; but, another part spoils everything by being distressed at a lack of recognition. To work entirely selflessly means we are working for a sincere cause and not for our human ego

Keep the Mind Perfectly Silent for 3 Minutes.

Man has conquered space, man has conquered Everest. But, how many people have conquered their own mind – which should, in theory, be the easiest thing to control? Try sitting quiet and still and then observe the thoughts going through your mind. Then try to stop all thoughts, try to think of  absolutely nothing – just concentrate on your breathing. If you can have an absolutely still mind for 3 minutes then you will make very good progress with meditation; it will be an invaluable tool for cultivating inner peace. (BTW falling asleep for 3 minutes does not count as meditation – although it is one way to quieten the mind.) However, you may also find it is really quite difficult to control your mind. But, this seems a paradox, if it is our mind and we can decide, why is it so difficult to calm and be at our command?

Spend a Day Without Criticising Anybody

The world has plenty of critics, there are countless justifications for complaining about x,y,z. But, could you spend a day without criticising your friends, family and work colleagues? Here, we should avoid criticising on an inner plane as well as with words. It is difficult to avoid gossiping about people, but to keep our thoughts clear of gossip is even more difficult.

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11 thoughts on “Could You do This?”

  1. Good stuff, Tejvan! I absolutely agree with you it’s difficult to take criticism. It’s after all human to reject anything that’s seemingly is an attack on one’s ego. One good way I’ve tried to work on this is to put myself in the other person’s shoes. How would I feel if someone did the same thing to me like what I would be doing to other person. It never fails to calm me down.

    At the end of day, in my opinion, karma is real. What you do to someone will eventually fall back onto you. What goes around, comes around.

    Just my 2cents. Once again, thanks for the good article!

    Cheers,
    Ellesse

  2. Good stuff Tejvan! I especially like the importance you place upon being able to control our thoughts and have a “silent mind”. Sometimes it feels like my mind goes onto overdrive, and that is when I find I need to find a quiet place, be still, and meditate for a few minutes. This is a relatively new thing I do and it has helped a lot!

  3. Finally I have found this Website. Wow. Sometimes I feel like a corn of rice poped up and then reduced to a grain of sand but definitely everything helps me in terms of finishing the self-perfection-journey. I am so grateful to be
    a member of the inspiration-group. It widens your receptivity. We see that others tell what for so long was untold specially this sentence: Too often we allow certain things to permanently cloud our judgement and opinion of others.

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  4. Tejvan, Tejvan, this is so well written. You are able to cover so many aspects of criticism/praise. Sometimes the circumstances can be even more subtle.

  5. For the last one week, i have been asking am i that bad, i always want to deny the criticsm that my lecturer did on me. I always want to believe that the criticsm is not true at all. I am so glad and fortunate to come across this artice at the time i need it most.I felt so touched when i read your article and almost wanted to cry. I then realise What my lecturer said is true.”Even if criticism is offered with unkind words, it can still contain very good advice which can help us improve. “This sentence penetrate deep inside my heart. For all this while, i always “hate”when people praise me, as i believe that they just want to boost me,and nothing true about what they say. Now, i guess it is ok, not to accept praise but Not criticsm. Thank you for the well written article. i always wish that one day i would be able to speak my mind as clear as you had done.I do feel grateful for the critiscm as i know,now, i need to work harder to improve myself and for that i owe you.

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  7. “Think of a person that you dislike or someone who just irritates you. Suppose that they did something really great for the world, how would you feel? Would you be happy and proud they had at last done something good?”

    To avoid criticism is a valid path to good mental health.

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