Comments on: When and How Should We Criticise Others? http://www.srichinmoybio.co.uk/blog/life/criticism/ Self Improvement for daily Life Thu, 11 Mar 2010 21:36:26 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Andreea http://www.srichinmoybio.co.uk/blog/life/criticism/comment-page-1/#comment-2021 Andreea Mon, 01 Mar 2010 17:19:02 +0000 http://www.srichinmoybio.co.uk/blog/life/criticism/#comment-2021 May Jesus bless you with His salvation. Have a nice spring! May Jesus bless you with His salvation. Have a nice spring!

]]> By: Not Criticising Others - A Challenge — Sri Chinmoy Inspiration http://www.srichinmoybio.co.uk/blog/life/criticism/comment-page-1/#comment-962 Not Criticising Others - A Challenge — Sri Chinmoy Inspiration Mon, 15 Sep 2008 20:24:19 +0000 http://www.srichinmoybio.co.uk/blog/life/criticism/#comment-962 [...] When and How Should we criticise others? [...] [...] When and How Should we criticise others? [...]

]]> By: How To Turn Your Life Around. — Sri Chinmoy Inspiration http://www.srichinmoybio.co.uk/blog/life/criticism/comment-page-1/#comment-477 How To Turn Your Life Around. — Sri Chinmoy Inspiration Wed, 19 Mar 2008 09:55:03 +0000 http://www.srichinmoybio.co.uk/blog/life/criticism/#comment-477 [...] It is essential that we don’t take problems personally. We need to be able to detach from the odd criticism and setback. There is great power in acceptance and detachment. Don’t allow yourself to get hung up on unfortunate experiences, strive to overcome them. Don’t define success and happiness through the importance of your ego and what people say. (see:  art of criticism) [...] [...] It is essential that we don’t take problems personally. We need to be able to detach from the odd criticism and setback. There is great power in acceptance and detachment. Don’t allow yourself to get hung up on unfortunate experiences, strive to overcome them. Don’t define success and happiness through the importance of your ego and what people say. (see:  art of criticism) [...]

]]> By: Chris Cade http://www.srichinmoybio.co.uk/blog/life/criticism/comment-page-1/#comment-465 Chris Cade Tue, 11 Mar 2008 04:49:22 +0000 http://www.srichinmoybio.co.uk/blog/life/criticism/#comment-465 "For example, point out the mistake but don’t add unnecessary judgments about how bad they are to do it." I think that's the most critical element of all of this. When we honestly remove judgment from our criticisms... they really just become constructive critiques, which is invaluable. I actually talk a lot about this topic in my upcoming ebook devoted to helping others utilize story writing as a path for spiritual growth. I also think an important element on this topic is compassion. The more genuine compassion we have for somebody, the more we: 1) Will intuitively know when is the right time to critique and in which ways 2) Will connect with the other person at a deeper level because they'll know we aren't saying things to hurt them (although sometimes the truth hurts), but rather we genuinely care for their welfare and just want to help them towards leading a more peaceful, happy, and fulfilling life. “For example, point out the mistake but don’t add unnecessary judgments about how bad they are to do it.”

I think that’s the most critical element of all of this. When we honestly remove judgment from our criticisms… they really just become constructive critiques, which is invaluable.

I actually talk a lot about this topic in my upcoming ebook devoted to helping others utilize story writing as a path for spiritual growth.

I also think an important element on this topic is compassion. The more genuine compassion we have for somebody, the more we:

1) Will intuitively know when is the right time to critique and in which ways

2) Will connect with the other person at a deeper level because they’ll know we aren’t saying things to hurt them (although sometimes the truth hurts), but rather we genuinely care for their welfare and just want to help them towards leading a more peaceful, happy, and fulfilling life.

]]> By: Shardul http://www.srichinmoybio.co.uk/blog/life/criticism/comment-page-1/#comment-463 Shardul Mon, 10 Mar 2008 23:25:05 +0000 http://www.srichinmoybio.co.uk/blog/life/criticism/#comment-463 Very nice post Tejvan! Sri Chinmoy once told one of his students that if a person does nine bad things and one good thing, always focus on and encourage that one good thing - forget the rest. There is nothing like being around people who only see the good in others - it is like a breath of fresh air. When we see the good in others it also creates a positive environment for enlightenment - fertile soil for positive change as it were. And that is so helpful in so many ways. Thanks for this very encouraging post. Very nice post Tejvan! Sri Chinmoy once told one of his students that if a person does nine bad things and one good thing, always focus on and encourage that one good thing – forget the rest. There is nothing like being around people who only see the good in others – it is like a breath of fresh air. When we see the good in others it also creates a positive environment for enlightenment – fertile soil for positive change as it were. And that is so helpful in so many ways. Thanks for this very encouraging post.

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